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(May all beings everywhere be happy and peaceful)

How to Start the Next “New and Improved” Chapter of Your Life

There are many prices to pay in order to change your life. The biggest one? Letting go of people. Living a new life with people who aren’t aligned with your vision or actively try to undermine it makes for an insurmountable task.

If you know somebody who’s done it successfully, let me know. I’d like to interview them as a case study in superhuman  mental bravery.

Make no mistake about it. Letting go of people is hard. It will hurt, badly. Throw WHO|people that|folks that|those that|those who} don’t need to suffer consequences for your changes like children who can currently solely get fifty p.c of you, and alter will leave you wounded and scarred.

Successful folks have scars, wounds, skeletons, and bodies buried within the grounds. Is chasing a new life at the expense of your old ones a Faustian bargain or a worthwhile investment? It depends on who you are, what you’re made of, and how you deal with the process (I’ll explain soon).

The second price you’ll have to pay involves time and investment. You’ve heard of the sunk cost fallacy before. Once you pay one thing — time, money, resources — it’s gone. How you used what you’ve gained by giving those up is inconsequential. Whether you hold on or relinquishing, that investment has already been created.

So if you’d raise Associate in Nursing social scientist, they’d tell you to maneuver on and optimize the longer term. That’s what “homo economicus” would do. But humans can’t be pigeonholed that way. We’re too complex to fit mathematical models, too jaded to make decisions rationally, and too ego-centric do always do the “right” thing.

For these reasons, people often hold onto what they have, but maybe it’s not so bad as the self-help guru would have you think.

The Case for Staying the Same

Without question, there is honor in sticking it out. Your life isn’t concerning you and therefore the consequences of your actions don’t have an effect on simply you.

Who’s to say sticking it out for the kids, especially when many say splitting does damage, isn’t the right move?

What is wrong with working a job you hate if it means providing safety and security for you and your family?

Who’s to say Buddha isn’t right? Maybe you should learn to find contentment in what you have because desire only leads to suffering.

None of these stances are inherently wrong. In fact, they have benefits. This is true about most things. In my work, I’ve veered away with absolutes and binary prescriptions because they don’t account for the way the world works.

I can’t tell you what to do, exactly what will happen, or whether or not you should listen to me. I will solely gift what i do know and allow you to do with it as you please.

For the pro “staying the same” case, the benefits are anything but inconsequential:

Stability isn’t continually nice for you, but it can be great for those around you. If you’re the axis people’s lives spin on, you can take solace in your self-sacrifice because it benefits them. We wouldn’t be here today if not for people who’ve done this.

Knowing exactly what to expect day in and day out can be mundane, but at least you know. Change is scary and it can break you in the process. Anyone who says it can’t is lying.

Often, once folks mirror on their lives, work, money, and status don’t make the top of the list. Friends, family, and the moments with them do. You don’t have to reinvent yourself to have these things.

The Costs of Staying the Same

Don’t assume simply because you keep identical, your situation will. You might be worried about outgrowing people only to be blindsided when they outgrow you. You can have “job security” in the future, only to be phased out and obsolete the next.

Your life is entirely remodeled by staying identical and failing to adapt by belongings you can’t management. You’d assume the last money crisis would’ve caused a mass exodus from the Matrix. You’d have thought folks would’ve learned their lesson and threw away society’s playbook, but the opposite happened. The majority of people doubled-down. The “entrepreneurial revolution” is a myth.

People usually don’t escape the matrix, because, as Morpheus said:

‘You have to understand. Most people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them square measure therefore enured so dispiritedly obsessed with the system that they're going to fight to shield it.’

So it goes. The serpent in the garden win again — you’re naked, ashamed, and timid.

My bent and final finding by currently square measure obvious. You know my final verdict. I did want to at least attempt to paint a clear picture of what following your dreams looks like. There is no right answer, there just is.

Whether or not you believe in God, you’ll find yourself trying to bargain with him. Only to find that God is in you, around you, supporting you, crushing you, reaching out for you, and hiding from you at the same time.

Ok, I’m getting a little esoteric and flowery here.

Let me give you my no-holds-barred honest thoughts.

Rather than give you absolute prescriptions, I’ll tell you what I know to be true without question.

You are here for a finite time.

Your deeply unmoving needs, fears, hopes, dreams, fantasies, and nightmares will never go away. You can only hope to get better at “dancing with them.”

You can control your decisions and not much else.

I stopped telling people what to do because it doesn’t work.

Aren’t you tired of looking for the perfect prescription, the right answer, the equation to a life of purpose and meaning?

Start over or keep identical, simply try and be savagely honest with yourself. You do have a true nature. Starting over can help you find it.

Regardless of what you do, remember the key word…


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